who should die first the wife or the husband?

Disclaimer I have no intention to hurt any one’s feelings or sentiments

While talking to one old widower and another old widow, the idea of this post came

Most of the ladies love and pamper their husbands to no limits, they take care of him (husband),look after his medicines, keep an eye on his movements, monitor his intake of foods, help him select his clothes etc etc. control his cholesterol, sugar , force him to go for walks . In general the wife makes the husband totally dependent on her.

They will rush home after any outing – “he must have come home, I have to give him his tea “

The wife always says “I want to die before my husband, Suhagan marna chahti hu”.

Has she ever thought that if she dies before the husband who will take care of him once she goes? She has made him so much dependent on her, rather made him handicapped to the extent that he will not take his medicine on his own.

Doesn’t she realize that once she dies the husband will be left alone with no one to take care of him, give him medicines?

How can the same woman who can’t bear the thought of leaving her husband alone for a single day think about leaving him for a lonely life without her?

Actually the best solution to save the old couples from depression because of death of the partner, the couple should die together so that no one suffers the loneliness, the feeling of left alone, the isolation and the depression

IF INSULTING IS MADE PUNISHABLE

IF INSUTLTING IS MADE PUNISHABLE

Just imagine what would happen if insulting was made a crime let me list all those who will be behind the bars or who will be punished

1. All the husbands for insulting their wives at every given chance.

2. Rest of the men for insulting women by abusing them (verbally as well as physically).

3. All those political leaders who insult the faith reposed on them by public.

4. All those friends who insult friendship by cheating on them.

5. All those children who insult their parents.

6. All those parents who insults their children by their sarcastic comments or expect much more from their children than they are capable of doing.

7. All those citizens who insult our legal system by violating the laws.

8. All those people who insult our religious values by talking against any particular religion or misusing the religious places.

9. All those women who insult women hood by indulging in acts which are demeaning to all the women

10. All those beggars who insult the emotions of philanthropists by presenting a false sob story and taking alms from them.

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The list is unending

If all these people are punished, our judiciary and legal system will have a tough time by putting them behind the bars

BUT the question is who will punish the insulters?

The law makers, the reformers, the judiciary themselves insult the legal system, rules and regulations.

So if there is no one to impart punishment what is the alternative?

Go on getting insulted and go on insulting others ????????????????

Is it 7 khoon maaf or is it Million Khoon maaf ?

Is it 7 khoon maaf or is it Million Khoon maaf ?

I don’t think so

It is millions of khoon maaf to the the whole team of this nonsensical movie

I am no film critic so don’t want to go into the technalities of the movie

But one thing is sure

The whole team of this movie has gone away with millions of khoon maaf

Khoon of time of millions of people ( 2 and half hour of movie, time spent in planning to see the movie, book the tickets, actually going to the theaters , and then coming back and of course pulling one’s hair)

Khoon of money spent on watching this movie in theaters (tickets, buying those popcorns and colas plus transportation)

Khoon of the relations between the people who went to watch the movie together (each one must have cursed the other for taking him along for this movie)

Khoon of our expectations over the movie and the desire to watch ts one and only one passable song.( darling ghar mein baith kar time pass karo)

Why this discrimination with our own people?

Why this discrimination with our own people?

Khabhi Khabhi mere dil mein khayal aata hai --- post No. 1 ( I am going to pen down my many thoughts which keep dancing in my brain)

I am not very politically oriented person and I have nothing against any person of any nationality or country.

But this thought just occurred to me

I was warned against keeping servants from Bihar or UP.

The common advice given by people is that as the servants come from very poor and backward areas, they are bound to resort to stealing. And this generalization has come from some stray cases of servants getting caught or indulging in petty thefts (at times big ones also)

I am very thankful to such concerned friends and well wishers

But then just one thought came

If we are asked to exercise extra caution against the people from our country then why don’t we use this discretion when dealing with people from other countries?

We all know that they are responsible for most of the terrorist attacks and activities in India, even then we don’t mind inviting them for our TV shows, or for our games or for using their voice in our movies?

For once I ditto the thoughts of Shiv Sena

We invite their artists to our country, give them award, pay them handsomely to appear in our reality shows, act in our movies, and sing for our artists.

Granted we are a generous lot of citizens and we Indians don’t carry grudges against any one, we are very forgiving, we are very big hearted , for us every one is equal

But then don’t we expect the same reciprocation from them. How many artist from our country have to gone to neighbouring country to take part in their shows or sing in their movies.

EK HAATH LE EK HAATH DE

Doesn’t this philosophy hold good for us?

Are we in so much awe with their artists that we allow them to supersede our own artists and willingly give them what can easily be given to our own people?

Or are we so thick skinned that the inhuman acts of those people doesn’t affect us? Or are we immune to the terrorist acts of those people.

I am surprised at the benevolence of so many Indians that they are ready to let go the barbaric acts of them .

If we really believe in the ideals of Gandhiji “ put forward your second cheek if someone slaps on u the other one” then why doesn’t this hold good when dealing with our fellow citizen

child sexual abuse --- can we do any thing about it?

I am too stunned to react to the news that appeared in a daily that a 8 -year-old girl from a slum in Mumbai repeatedly complained last month that her teacher was “touching and fondling her private parts,”. When the girl’s parents complained, the principal called them “regressive” and blamed them for damaging the school’s reputation. The girl now stays at home to help cook and clean, her school bag lying in a locked cupboard, her scholastic career over

Daily there are cases of sexual abuse of children all over India. Most of them go unreported and people are unaware of it but child abuse is there in all sections of society. Even the higher stratum of society which is considered to be the educated and most progressive section of the society is actively involved in it.

The silence from the victim and her/his family encourages the abuser to feel that he is safe to sexually abuse.

The worst part is most of the children are not aware that they are being abused and the children are growing up not knowing their rights have been violated. Most of the victims bury the abuse as a painful and shameful memory never to be told to anyone.

Children are expected to respect and obey authority figures such as parents, teachers, guidance counselors and principals and not question their actions and due to their innocence and blind faith in the elders that they don’t realize that they are being sexually abused and by the time they realize the shame and the fear makes them suffer the torture in silence.

I really shudder to think of the psychological consequences and the scars left by such perverted acts of the elders.

One more thing if these perverted elders want to satisfy their sexual urges why do they have to spoil the life of such innocent buds, why can’t they find partners of their own age?

Following are some of the links of news items appeared in news papers regarding sexual abuse of children in the last few days

MUMBAI: A 35-year-old man from Chembur was arrested for raping and sodomising a 10-month-old infant. The accused, Ramkisan Surajmal Harijan, a resident of Mankhurd-Ghatkopar Link Road, took the baby away on Tuesday night on the pretext of babysitting her after which he raped her.

Child abuse cases in city on the rise - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Child-abuse-cases-in-city-on-the-rise/articleshow/1370246.cms#ixzz19KkS3Cyf

NEW DELHI: The National Commission for Protection of Child Rights has received 75 cases of child abuse, including cases of corporal punishment upto October 31, with the highest number being reported from the national capital and Uttar Pradesh.
75 cases of child abuse reported this year - The Times of India http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/75-cases-of-child-abuse-reported-this-year/articleshow/6969299.cms#ixzz19KlBJhl6

http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Archive&Source=Page&Skin=TOINEW&BaseHref=TOIM/2010/04/07&PageLabel=3&EntityId=Ar00308&ViewMode=HTML&GZ=T )

http://news.rediff.com/slide-show/2010/oct/27/slide-show-1-50-pc-indian-kids-face-sexual-abuse-in-schools.htm

http://findarticles.com/p/news-articles/times-of-india-the/mi_8012/is_20060921/sexual-abuse-children-rampant-society/ai_n39425306/

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/india/More-than-50-Indian-kids-face-sexual-abuse/articleshow/6812170.cms

CAN'T WE DO ANY THING ABOUT IT?

what can we as the concerned population of our country do to save these children?

No age bar on having NON PENETRATIVE SEX

This is neither my idea nor these are my words but this is the news on the front page of Times of India

“ BILL SEEKS TO ALLOW 12 YEAR OLDS TO HAVE NON PENETRATIVE SEX

Don’t believe me then

http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Default/Scripting/ArticleWin.asp?From=Archive&Source=Page&Skin=TOINEW&BaseHref=TOIM/2011/02/01&PageLabel=1&EntityId=Ar00106&ViewMode=HTML&GZ=T

That means 12 year olds can indulge in sexual acts (except for the penetration) with children of their age.

Even in advanced countries like USA and UK the official age for having consent sex is 16 -18 then how come a country like ours can encourage the not so developed (psychologically, emotionally, and physically ) children to have sex?

Is it the sign of progression/growth/advancement?

Or is it the sign of further deterioration of our moral ethics?

Will this bill not encourage young ones to indulge in immoral acts?

Are we not corrupting the young innocent minds by legally permitting them to indulge in all the foreplay and the associated acts?

According to the said bill

Any consensual non penetrative sexual ac is not an offence when engaged in between two children who are both over 12 years.

As far as my understanding goes in future if the bill is passed then for the children till the actual penetration is there no other sexual act will be punishable.

That means they can go to any extent and cross any limit to have physical relation with children of their age or within 2 years of their age

I wonder what was Ms. Aparna Bhat thinking when she along with others drafted this bill?

According to her this bill is to decriminalize sexual exploration by children.

So if the said bill sent by the ministry of women and child development to all the states is approved and passed that means we can say bye bye to our moral values and coolly watch our young ones to enjoy sexual acts?

men sex and lust

I am too stunned to comment on the news that appeared in today’s newspaper

“A 2 YEAR OLD GIRL WAS RAPED BY AN ADULT MALE”

http://anjugandhi.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/men-sex-and-lust/