I am very disturbed today. Not because of any tensions because of my children or husband but something which I came across
While I was sitting in my husband’s office, two very pretty young girls came to meet him in his office.I was just wondering what problems they may be having and then one of them said that she wanted divorce from her husband. And they were married not for more than few months and they had a love marriage. The other one was already a client of my husband who was visiting him regularly to expedite her divorce proceedings. And even she had a love marriage.
This perturbed me a lot. I just wondered what had gone wrong in their marriage. They had selected their life partners themselves (they cannot blame arranged marriage or lack of communication with their partners for that). They knew their partners very well. They must have discussed all the possible issues related to married life before hand also (I suppose so, as I don’t know what actually is discussed when two people go on dates, after all I had an arranged marriage and hardly any communication with him before marriage!)
No, I am not against Love marriage. Please don’t take me wrong. I am very much in favour of it as the couple gets many opportunities to know each other’s background, family, to know each other’s views, thoughts, feelings, to analyse each other’s attitudes etc.
Then what went wrong? Why have they decided to drift apart and that too within a year of marriage (They must have moved mountains to convince their parents regarding this match)?
Who was at fault? What was the bone of contention between the newlywed couple? Were they not able to sort out their differences on their own, or didn’t they have family members to advice and guide them to face the initial challenges of marriage.
This is true when two persons with two different personalities, different culture, background, different values decide to live together, there is bound to be clashes in their thoughts, egos. And I am sure all the couples enter into this arena of matrimonial life fully knowing this.
Specially, today when both the parties are educated, more knowledgeable and up with moving times, they can never complain that they were not aware that there will be differences and they will have to adjust their life style according to each other.
Then, why? Only after few months of married life these people decided to separate.
Was their endurance at its low? Or they had tried but things had gone out of their hands, Or they were not ready to adjust to each other’s needs and desires? Or their own personal ego was much more important than the feeling of WE? Or they belonged to that set of people who equate marriage to one night stands only and who have the attitude “let us give a try, if we are compatible we will stay together otherwise we will leave each other”?
It is not that in the past, couples did not face these teething problems of marital life but then I suppose they showed more composure, more understanding towards each other and they were ready to adjust (granted more from the wife’s side as compared to husband’s) but they did manage to stay together and faced the initial hurdles of this so called lifelong commitment.
Another thing that disturbed me was to see the girl with her friend and not with some family members. Divorce is a big step. Was that girl taking that step on her own without consultation or support from her family? Because if the family knows about it then I don’t think that they will allow the girl to visit the advocate on her own and discuss such an important issue on her own.
I will advocate such cases where it becomes humanly impossible for both the partners to live together, to part ways and take their individual stand and lead their life as they want. I will also favour such couples where the partners are not able to satisfy the physical, financial as well as emotional needs of the other partner.
But at least give it a try. Don’t take impulsive step of separating. I have seen cases and of course read a lot that divorce leaves many scars within both the parties, it handicaps them in many ways and affects their future relations too.
I may be sounding old fashioned or many may put aside my post as something written by someone who doesn’t understand today’s generation BUT it is a fact that I am very disturbed by this new trend of divorce that too so early in the married life.
Someone said,” STAYING SINGLE IS CHIC, DIVORCE IS IN VOGUE, LIVE IN RELATIONS ARE FASHION, AND EXTRA MARITAL RELATIONS ARE COMMON AND HERE I AM --- HAPPILY MARRIED! BLOODY TOTALLY OUTDATED! AM I REALLY OUTDATED?
Wednesday, May 13, 2009
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Father dear father
With the rising sun came the voice on FM radio.”Today 6th of May ------ and hearing this suddenly I got out of my trance and said that means tomorrow is 7th May. How could I forget it?
7th May (my dad’s birth anniversary) has got nostalgic emotions for me. This was the day many years back when I first held a real rose flower bouquet in my hand. For me 7th May and fruit cream, tandoori roti and of course the most delectable alu ki sabzi (made by my dad with lots of ghee and tons of love), I have ever had are synonyms of each other. I can never think of 7th May without all these. And how much hard I try I can never make half as tasty alu ki sabzi as the ones I have had countless number of times and after marriage most of my summer vacations ( till my daughter entered her X) were planned so that I could be there in Delhi with my dad on this day.
While I was having a memorable journey in the bygone days and remembering one of the best fathers a girl can have, flashed an apt advertisement (to the emotions I was experiencing )on one of the channels of TV
It showed a Bride and groom walking down the aisle and suddenly the girl stumbles upon something and she is about to fall but the groom saves her from falling and holds her in his arms. And next shot is of the father who is watching the whole thing. And suddenly he goes back in flash back and remembers how he used to save his daughter from falling in similar situations. Then again the camera is flashed on father’s face. The longing, concern, love and affection is very beautifully shown on his face. For a second he steps forward then stops himself and lets the groom help his daughter. And then he pats the boy and smiles. And then follow the publicity of the product which I just ignored.
Watching this like any mother who sees or reads anything remotely concerned with daughter’s marriage, tears veiled in my eyes. And I started relating and dreaming of my loved one’s marriage. But simultaneously I was engulfed with many thoughts of my relation with my father and father and daughter’s relation in general
As the women are more expressive and demonstrative, much has been written and known about their feelings, emotions and expressions with relation to her children but very little attention is paid to the inner turmoil of father (he is supposed to be the strong one in the family after all)
I wondered how a father feels when his beautiful princess gets married. Right from the moment the daughter is born, most of the fathers develop parental neurosis i.e. they become afraid that his precious girl may go ashtray. They feel that it their duty to impose rules about dating and whom she will date, what company will she keep etc etc.
A Father is always afraid that some boy will take advantage of his cherished one. He wants to monitor each and every moment of his treasure.
Then how he must be feeling when he himself gives away his daughter to some stranger happily? (Although it is a known fact in a father’s eye no boy is worth his revered one and no one can be compared to his dear daughter).
Like the father in the advertisement every father must be feeling reluctant to let go his daughter and must be undergoing many apprehensions whether the boy for his dear one will take care of her or not, whether he is the right choice or not. And then with heavy heart he allows some unknown person to drive away his apple of eye in another world away from him . How he must be feeling to realise that now onwards his place in his loved one's life will become secondary and some one else will be there to take care of each and every need of hers and protect her from all the misgivings?
Even my father must have felt the same when I got married ( after all I was his laadli beti) and I am sure my husband will be feeling the same ( someone out there please take a note of this).Like my husband who thinks that his daughter is the best ,even my father must have felt the same.
I distinctly remember him asking me after I received my first letter from my husband, “did he write good letter? Actually he meant was it a letter dripping with love.
If he had his way he would have loved to read all my letters (although I let him read one or two to quench his curiosity)
I am very lucky to have had nurturance from my dad. He was the one who encouraged me to be adventurous; he introduced me to the word of reading, music that too gazals, playing cards and so many other things. His presence always gave me the confidence to go anywhere in the world and meet complete strangers with ease.
Many a times while dealing with my children I have tried to analyse my father’s reaction in similar situation and then I have corrected myself.
Two things which I can never forget about my father is (1)his confidence in all his children and telling my brother and sisters and ofcourse me ,“come and tell me yourself if you have done anything which you should not have done. So that when some outsider tells me about your act I should be able to say it with confidence that I know about it” (2) his optimistic and positive attitude in any crisis.
I always try to copy him, his attitude, his style in my life and especially with my childern. I hope my way of dealing with situations in life meets with his approval and he feels proud of me wherever he is.
7th May (my dad’s birth anniversary) has got nostalgic emotions for me. This was the day many years back when I first held a real rose flower bouquet in my hand. For me 7th May and fruit cream, tandoori roti and of course the most delectable alu ki sabzi (made by my dad with lots of ghee and tons of love), I have ever had are synonyms of each other. I can never think of 7th May without all these. And how much hard I try I can never make half as tasty alu ki sabzi as the ones I have had countless number of times and after marriage most of my summer vacations ( till my daughter entered her X) were planned so that I could be there in Delhi with my dad on this day.
While I was having a memorable journey in the bygone days and remembering one of the best fathers a girl can have, flashed an apt advertisement (to the emotions I was experiencing )on one of the channels of TV
It showed a Bride and groom walking down the aisle and suddenly the girl stumbles upon something and she is about to fall but the groom saves her from falling and holds her in his arms. And next shot is of the father who is watching the whole thing. And suddenly he goes back in flash back and remembers how he used to save his daughter from falling in similar situations. Then again the camera is flashed on father’s face. The longing, concern, love and affection is very beautifully shown on his face. For a second he steps forward then stops himself and lets the groom help his daughter. And then he pats the boy and smiles. And then follow the publicity of the product which I just ignored.
Watching this like any mother who sees or reads anything remotely concerned with daughter’s marriage, tears veiled in my eyes. And I started relating and dreaming of my loved one’s marriage. But simultaneously I was engulfed with many thoughts of my relation with my father and father and daughter’s relation in general
As the women are more expressive and demonstrative, much has been written and known about their feelings, emotions and expressions with relation to her children but very little attention is paid to the inner turmoil of father (he is supposed to be the strong one in the family after all)
I wondered how a father feels when his beautiful princess gets married. Right from the moment the daughter is born, most of the fathers develop parental neurosis i.e. they become afraid that his precious girl may go ashtray. They feel that it their duty to impose rules about dating and whom she will date, what company will she keep etc etc.
A Father is always afraid that some boy will take advantage of his cherished one. He wants to monitor each and every moment of his treasure.
Then how he must be feeling when he himself gives away his daughter to some stranger happily? (Although it is a known fact in a father’s eye no boy is worth his revered one and no one can be compared to his dear daughter).
Like the father in the advertisement every father must be feeling reluctant to let go his daughter and must be undergoing many apprehensions whether the boy for his dear one will take care of her or not, whether he is the right choice or not. And then with heavy heart he allows some unknown person to drive away his apple of eye in another world away from him . How he must be feeling to realise that now onwards his place in his loved one's life will become secondary and some one else will be there to take care of each and every need of hers and protect her from all the misgivings?
Even my father must have felt the same when I got married ( after all I was his laadli beti) and I am sure my husband will be feeling the same ( someone out there please take a note of this).Like my husband who thinks that his daughter is the best ,even my father must have felt the same.
I distinctly remember him asking me after I received my first letter from my husband, “did he write good letter? Actually he meant was it a letter dripping with love.
If he had his way he would have loved to read all my letters (although I let him read one or two to quench his curiosity)
I am very lucky to have had nurturance from my dad. He was the one who encouraged me to be adventurous; he introduced me to the word of reading, music that too gazals, playing cards and so many other things. His presence always gave me the confidence to go anywhere in the world and meet complete strangers with ease.
Many a times while dealing with my children I have tried to analyse my father’s reaction in similar situation and then I have corrected myself.
Two things which I can never forget about my father is (1)his confidence in all his children and telling my brother and sisters and ofcourse me ,“come and tell me yourself if you have done anything which you should not have done. So that when some outsider tells me about your act I should be able to say it with confidence that I know about it” (2) his optimistic and positive attitude in any crisis.
I always try to copy him, his attitude, his style in my life and especially with my childern. I hope my way of dealing with situations in life meets with his approval and he feels proud of me wherever he is.
Sunday, May 3, 2009
ऐसा क्यूँ होता है?
ऐसा क्यूँ होता है कि जिन बच्चो को हम हाथ पकड़ कर चलना सिखाते है वो जब चलना सीख जाते है और हमारा हाथ छोड़ कर अकेले भागना चाहते है तो हमें दुःख होता है। उनको ऊँचे आसमान में उड़ने कि प्रेरणा हम देते है , उनके पंखो में जान डालते है और जब वो उड़ना सीख जाते है और गगन के दुसरे छोर को छुना चाहते है तो हमे जहाँ एक तरफ़ खुशी मिलती है वहीं दूसरी ओर अकेलेपन का एहसास क्यूँ मार डालता है। यह तो जिंदगी कि सचाई है कि पर मिलने के बाद पंछी भी माँ का घोसला छोड़ कर दूसरा आशियाँ बनाने को निकल जाते है। आखिकार हम येही तो चाहते है कि हमारे बच्चे नाम कमाए, जिंदगी में कुछ बन जाए, स्वालंबी बन जाए। अपनी जगह ख़ुद बनाये फिर क्यूँ माँ बाप दुखी हो जाते है जब बच्चे अपनी जिंदगी ख़ुद अपनी मर्जी से जीना चाहते है।
बचपन में हर बच्चे को माँ बाप कि जरुरत होती है.पर समय के साथ साथ यह जररु़त जगह बदल लेती है। बाद में ऐसी सिथ्ती आ जाती है जब बच्चो को नही बल्कि माँ बाप को बच्चो कि जरुँरत होने लगती है।
में कई बार यह सोच में पड़ जाती हु कि बच्चो से कुछ उम्मीद करना ग़लत है कि सही है। हमने बच्चो कि इस उम्मीद से तो पैदा नही कीया था कि वो बड़े होकर हमारा सहारा बनेंगे?
I salute those parents who are living and enjoying their life with each other and have let their children live their own life .
मेरे ख्याल से यह उनकी जिंदगी के वो सुनहरे पल है जो उनको एक दुसरे के साथ जीने चाहिए क्यूंकि शायद अभी उनको मौका मिला है एक दुसरे को समझाने का , एक दुसरे को जानने का । नही तो काफ़ी जिंदगी तो उन्होंने ने अपने बच्चो के पीछे ही निकाल दी ।( this is my way of positive thinking -----The only silver lining in this period of their old age which they should be enjoying with their children and grand children and now they are forced to live a lonely life is to think that they have got a chance to know each other and give quality time to each other and rejuvenate their relation with each other.)
so parents whose children are away from them enjoy each and every moment of this period. give your full attention to your partner. take care of all the needs of your other half BUT be there for your children whenever they need you.
After all the children are there because of us. We are responsbile for what they have become in life.
and I hope the children also appreciate this reality that their being is because of their parents.
yes I did it
I am feeling very proud that I did vote. I was finally able to overcome my confusion regarding whether to vote or not. Although, it was not an easy decision especially with my other half being totally against it. But Yes I did it. I even managed to drag my somewhat stubborn other half to the polling booth and exercise one of our fundamental right.
Like millions of Indians even I am not very much convinced with our political system. We all know that who so ever comes in power is not going to bring about drastic change in our surroundings or put India on the top ladder of world map .But then just to sit and do nothing and blame others is not the solution.
But there has to be a beginning. So I contributed my micro bit in the process of making a better India with the hope and expectation that something good will come out of it.
I don’t know who was more responsible for changing my mind regarding casting my vote. Whether it was my father in law who after every half an hour was pushing me to go and vote or the excitement of my son who went to vote for the very first time and was proudly flaunting his middle finger with a long ink mark on it or was it to see group of people or the general attitude of people on the road who were anxiously waiting in long queues despite the scorching sun or I deep in my heart also wanted to proudly admit to others that Yes I did vote and condemn the ones who didn’t.
It was a tough decision to select from the long list of 19 contestants (can’t believe there were 19, as we only knew 2 heavy weight champions in the political arena. From where did these 17 with such hilarious symbols to their credit popped up?) This made me wonder were they not aware that they stand no chance of getting even 1% of the total vote casted. So why did they fill up the nomination form and deposited the security. Was it the thrill of seeing their names on the contestants list, or to become a permanent part of history or there was some ulterior motive of some of some involved parties?
I don’t want to dwell upon the intricacies of my selection of the candidate as it was very tough to choose between the party and the candidate. The party whose ideologies doesn’t appeal to me was being represented by one of the well known persons of our country who is intelligent and rather new in this battle of politics and is with pragmatic ideas. And I am not sure whether the party whom I voted for will really do something for us?
But yes, I am feeling very proud that I am one of those 41% odd voters who exercised their option and not one of the rest of the 59% who chose not to vote and now will just criticize each and every act of the Government and Look down upon politics.
One thing which I couldn’t understand was about one lakh polling agents didn’t vote although they were on the duty at different polling booths. These agents were given the option of postal ballots long before then why didn’t they use it. And all these one lakh agents comprises the educated strata of our society. If they were amongst the uneducated lot one could understand that they were not able to understand and follow the instructions given to them regarding postal ballot. But why these people did not select their party and candidate is beyond my imagination
Now when the excitement of election fever is dwindling and result fever is mounting up. I just pray that who so ever comes in power will for a change think about the country and its people first rather than think about himself and his family.
Like millions of Indians even I am not very much convinced with our political system. We all know that who so ever comes in power is not going to bring about drastic change in our surroundings or put India on the top ladder of world map .But then just to sit and do nothing and blame others is not the solution.
But there has to be a beginning. So I contributed my micro bit in the process of making a better India with the hope and expectation that something good will come out of it.
I don’t know who was more responsible for changing my mind regarding casting my vote. Whether it was my father in law who after every half an hour was pushing me to go and vote or the excitement of my son who went to vote for the very first time and was proudly flaunting his middle finger with a long ink mark on it or was it to see group of people or the general attitude of people on the road who were anxiously waiting in long queues despite the scorching sun or I deep in my heart also wanted to proudly admit to others that Yes I did vote and condemn the ones who didn’t.
It was a tough decision to select from the long list of 19 contestants (can’t believe there were 19, as we only knew 2 heavy weight champions in the political arena. From where did these 17 with such hilarious symbols to their credit popped up?) This made me wonder were they not aware that they stand no chance of getting even 1% of the total vote casted. So why did they fill up the nomination form and deposited the security. Was it the thrill of seeing their names on the contestants list, or to become a permanent part of history or there was some ulterior motive of some of some involved parties?
I don’t want to dwell upon the intricacies of my selection of the candidate as it was very tough to choose between the party and the candidate. The party whose ideologies doesn’t appeal to me was being represented by one of the well known persons of our country who is intelligent and rather new in this battle of politics and is with pragmatic ideas. And I am not sure whether the party whom I voted for will really do something for us?
But yes, I am feeling very proud that I am one of those 41% odd voters who exercised their option and not one of the rest of the 59% who chose not to vote and now will just criticize each and every act of the Government and Look down upon politics.
One thing which I couldn’t understand was about one lakh polling agents didn’t vote although they were on the duty at different polling booths. These agents were given the option of postal ballots long before then why didn’t they use it. And all these one lakh agents comprises the educated strata of our society. If they were amongst the uneducated lot one could understand that they were not able to understand and follow the instructions given to them regarding postal ballot. But why these people did not select their party and candidate is beyond my imagination
Now when the excitement of election fever is dwindling and result fever is mounting up. I just pray that who so ever comes in power will for a change think about the country and its people first rather than think about himself and his family.
Wednesday, April 29, 2009
DAWN OR DUSK?
Yesterday front page of most of the daily newspaper were adorned with one news only. No, it was not concerning Politics/elections/ Corruption/ malpractices/underworld.
It was a news item with the heading DIVORCE GRANTED TO OLD AGED COUPLE or similar heading
The subject matter of the news was that an old aged Parsi couple after 42 years of married life decided to end their married life by seeking the ultimate respite available to some of the married people from their hellish married life----DIVORCE.
I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read the age of the couple. Husband 78 years and wife 74 years!
The reason given by wife was the same old one- physical and mental torture by husband and his family.
In our society, for that matter in any society anywhere in the world domestic violence is very common. Be it a financially poor family or families belonging to the upper strata of the society, be it educated so called emancipated ,moving with the times couples or uneducated, illiterate couples. Physical and mental torture by husbands and in laws is very common.
I am in a dilemma whether I should applaud the courage shown by the wife of finally ending the farce called as marriage which she was tolerating since so many years or feel sorry for both of them for deserting the company of each other at this crucial stage of their life
Most of the women’s organizations will surely appreciate the bold step taken by the lady that too at this junction of life when company of life partners is as important as meeting daily needs. This is the age when loneliness, deteriorating health, physical weakness, low self esteem, disillusionment and disorientation with life become the closest friends of old people . The main comfort the people derive is from their friends or life partners..The biggest nightmare for such people is loneliness caused by the death of life partner.
And this lady decided to part ways not even giving a second thought to her future or the problems which she may face later. I feel like saying Hats off the lady. She had the guts to put an end to her traumatic married life and live an independent life away from the shadow of her over bearing husband.
But then I am again forced to think was this step right? If she had tolerated for so long why didn’t she show some more patience and tried to adjust a little more. Was her decision to leave her husband who is at the threshold of succumbing to death any moment right one?
After the divorce the couple will be staying next doors only in adjacent flats. Will they remain immune to each other’s needs and requirements? Will their heart not bleed when the other person is ill or incapable of fulfilling the daily chores?
I am confused whether to consider this drastic step taken by them as the dawn of a new era where women will not tolerate the inhumane behavior of their spouse, where women with no regards to their physical age or age of their married life will stand up to the ill treatment meted out to them and look for new horizons in their life OR is the sun setting for the institution of marriage where life partners were committed to each other for good or worse, where husband and wife together as one entity were ready to face any obstacles and be the supporting pillar of each other.. Is this the dawn of a new day where feeling of self or I will override the feeling of WE, where individual will become more important than the sacred vows taken at the time of marriage Or is dusk setting in for the concept of marriage?
It was a news item with the heading DIVORCE GRANTED TO OLD AGED COUPLE or similar heading
The subject matter of the news was that an old aged Parsi couple after 42 years of married life decided to end their married life by seeking the ultimate respite available to some of the married people from their hellish married life----DIVORCE.
I couldn’t believe my eyes when I read the age of the couple. Husband 78 years and wife 74 years!
The reason given by wife was the same old one- physical and mental torture by husband and his family.
In our society, for that matter in any society anywhere in the world domestic violence is very common. Be it a financially poor family or families belonging to the upper strata of the society, be it educated so called emancipated ,moving with the times couples or uneducated, illiterate couples. Physical and mental torture by husbands and in laws is very common.
I am in a dilemma whether I should applaud the courage shown by the wife of finally ending the farce called as marriage which she was tolerating since so many years or feel sorry for both of them for deserting the company of each other at this crucial stage of their life
Most of the women’s organizations will surely appreciate the bold step taken by the lady that too at this junction of life when company of life partners is as important as meeting daily needs. This is the age when loneliness, deteriorating health, physical weakness, low self esteem, disillusionment and disorientation with life become the closest friends of old people . The main comfort the people derive is from their friends or life partners..The biggest nightmare for such people is loneliness caused by the death of life partner.
And this lady decided to part ways not even giving a second thought to her future or the problems which she may face later. I feel like saying Hats off the lady. She had the guts to put an end to her traumatic married life and live an independent life away from the shadow of her over bearing husband.
But then I am again forced to think was this step right? If she had tolerated for so long why didn’t she show some more patience and tried to adjust a little more. Was her decision to leave her husband who is at the threshold of succumbing to death any moment right one?
After the divorce the couple will be staying next doors only in adjacent flats. Will they remain immune to each other’s needs and requirements? Will their heart not bleed when the other person is ill or incapable of fulfilling the daily chores?
I am confused whether to consider this drastic step taken by them as the dawn of a new era where women will not tolerate the inhumane behavior of their spouse, where women with no regards to their physical age or age of their married life will stand up to the ill treatment meted out to them and look for new horizons in their life OR is the sun setting for the institution of marriage where life partners were committed to each other for good or worse, where husband and wife together as one entity were ready to face any obstacles and be the supporting pillar of each other.. Is this the dawn of a new day where feeling of self or I will override the feeling of WE, where individual will become more important than the sacred vows taken at the time of marriage Or is dusk setting in for the concept of marriage?
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
TO VOTE OR NOT?
With elections round the corner and election fever scaling new heights daily, most of the educated and enlightened people are confused , whether to vote or not? and If yes then whom to vote for? same is the case with me
If the candidate is good then the party to which he belongs doesn't come up to my expectations and if I like the party ( conditioned right from childhood to favour a particular one by parents) then the candidate from my area representing this party is ill reputed with shady background and history behind him.
So what should I do? vote for the party and forget about the candidate. Let me strengthen the hands of party and bring them to power. Anyways he is not going to do any thing for my area. He will not visit even once the people who will put him on high pedestal and indirectly help him realise his dreams of making money by corrupt means. Or select the candidate who seems promising ( at least now) who claims to have revolutionary plans for his constituency. But if I vote for him that means I am supporting the party who is notorious for its racist policies and attitude.
Come to think of it all our political parties and the candidates are good for nothing . every one is concerned about promoting their families, relatives and friends and adding to their already filled to brim pockets.
No one seems to know what is the actual job our Member of Parliament do or are supposed to do. At least I am not aware of it. and I was surprised to read in today's newspaper that majority of our voters are not aware of it. For that matter election Commissioner was also not very forthcoming regarding it. And even the ministries of Law and justice and Parliamentary affairs had a clue.
There is no fixed guidelines for duties and responsibilities of Member of Parliament any where. Even the election manifesto of political parties is mum about it.
In this scenario where the elders and seasoned voters are confused about the whole issue what guidelines and advice can they give to the over excited youngsters who are going to franchise their right of voting for the first time.
Today when I, myself is in a dilemma regarding voting, how can I encourage my son to go and exercise his fundamental right for the first time?
If the candidate is good then the party to which he belongs doesn't come up to my expectations and if I like the party ( conditioned right from childhood to favour a particular one by parents) then the candidate from my area representing this party is ill reputed with shady background and history behind him.
So what should I do? vote for the party and forget about the candidate. Let me strengthen the hands of party and bring them to power. Anyways he is not going to do any thing for my area. He will not visit even once the people who will put him on high pedestal and indirectly help him realise his dreams of making money by corrupt means. Or select the candidate who seems promising ( at least now) who claims to have revolutionary plans for his constituency. But if I vote for him that means I am supporting the party who is notorious for its racist policies and attitude.
Come to think of it all our political parties and the candidates are good for nothing . every one is concerned about promoting their families, relatives and friends and adding to their already filled to brim pockets.
No one seems to know what is the actual job our Member of Parliament do or are supposed to do. At least I am not aware of it. and I was surprised to read in today's newspaper that majority of our voters are not aware of it. For that matter election Commissioner was also not very forthcoming regarding it. And even the ministries of Law and justice and Parliamentary affairs had a clue.
There is no fixed guidelines for duties and responsibilities of Member of Parliament any where. Even the election manifesto of political parties is mum about it.
In this scenario where the elders and seasoned voters are confused about the whole issue what guidelines and advice can they give to the over excited youngsters who are going to franchise their right of voting for the first time.
Today when I, myself is in a dilemma regarding voting, how can I encourage my son to go and exercise his fundamental right for the first time?
Saturday, April 18, 2009
This is politics for you
last week Priya Dutt the candidate from my constituency was to visit our area for her election. .last moment she decided that this area belongs to educated, well to do people so there is no need for her to come here and convince us as we know what we want and will vote for the one whom we think is the right person. so she went to the near by slums to lure them and brain wash them with her false promises, her starry background.
this made me wonder
(1)whether she was not confident enough to change our views even if we had already decided about our vote?
(2) she thought that illiterate slum people are naive enough to select her on the basis of her father and brother?
(3) also during last five years i.e. during her tenure as the MP we never saw her face in our constituency even once. where was she?. I thought that as she is young blood, comparatively new in politics, moving with the times she will do something revolutionary for the people. but she also proved to be the part of the same old block. show ur face once in five years. distribute some titbits to illiterate naive people . get their vote and they bye bye till next term
and then we say JAI HO
if youngsters behave in this way then no comments for all those oldies who just dont want to move a inch from their position.
this made me wonder
(1)whether she was not confident enough to change our views even if we had already decided about our vote?
(2) she thought that illiterate slum people are naive enough to select her on the basis of her father and brother?
(3) also during last five years i.e. during her tenure as the MP we never saw her face in our constituency even once. where was she?. I thought that as she is young blood, comparatively new in politics, moving with the times she will do something revolutionary for the people. but she also proved to be the part of the same old block. show ur face once in five years. distribute some titbits to illiterate naive people . get their vote and they bye bye till next term
and then we say JAI HO
if youngsters behave in this way then no comments for all those oldies who just dont want to move a inch from their position.
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