AWAKENING

Monday, January 24, 2011

men sex and lust

I am too stunned to comment on the news that appeared in today’s newspaper

“A 2 YEAR OLD GIRL WAS RAPED BY AN ADULT MALE”

http://anjugandhi.wordpress.com/2011/01/24/men-sex-and-lust/

Saturday, January 22, 2011

parents vs children — is there a way out?

This is neither a pro parents nor anti children post but the issue raised has been in existence since generations. Like the famous war between mother in law and the daughter in law, the differences between the parents and children are there to stay.

Came to know about a real life Baagban/Avataar story

This is not a stray example of life of a senior citizen but these sorts of examples have become part and parcel of our life.

In This particular case ( many senior citizens will identify with this)— retired father in law, sick mother in law , daughter in laws wants in laws to live separately, sons have already got all the property transferred in their name, and parents complaint “ our children are very rude to us, don’t talk to us, treat us useless liability”

—- so what should the parents do?

Harsh realities like this should be taken as lesson for every one. be it the old parents or the young parents, the present day young generation who are the culprits and also the children of the present day young generation.

I am not casting value judgment on anyone’s behaviour or attitude but just sharing some of my doubts and confusions which are baffling me:

Do the parents give birth to children because they want old age security or whether they want to satisfy their maternal/paternal instincts? ( This reminds me of one dialogue from a movie in which the son says” I didn’t ask you to give me birth, you wanted to satisfy your sexual as well as parental desires, why expect something in return from me, I didn’t ask you to give me a better future, and sacrifice your life. this was your decision, why expect any thing in return from me?”
Should the parents expect any thing from the children? Do they love and slog to give a better future to their children with the expectation that the children will repay them in their old age? Do they treat their children as investment which will reap returns in their old age?
Parents go to any extreme to take care of children, they sacrifice their comforts, sleep, their life, even their young age to give a better future to children and what do they get in return – the 3 I’s – insults, isolation, and insecurities?(Link)
The children these days are very quick in making their parents aware of their responsibilities but what about the duties of the children? Are the children so selfish that they don’t realize the sacrifices made by the parents for them, or their responsibility towards the ones who gave them a comfortable future? Have the breed of children become selfish and materialistic.
Won’t the present day children become tomorrow’s old parents? Won’t their children learn from their behaviour?
Should the parents become selfish and think about their life only?
Why should the parent save money for the future if it doesn’t give them comfort in their later life?
Won’t it be better if the parents don’t give away their life savings to the children in sudden fit of love for them? Rather they should keep everything with them (be it cash/property/ bank deposits/ shares etc) till their end , such arrangements should be made that in event of death of one of the parent the survival still retains the control over the finances till his/her end thus one of the partner is not left at the mercy of any one and continues maintaining his/her financial independence.
Will it create a more harmonious relation between the parents and children if they live separately thus no interference from any quarter in each other’s life? Each to his own?
Should the senior citizen shift to localities where they have like minded and same age people as their companions ( I don’t mean old age home but a society where the same age people are there to give each other company and take care of each other)(link)
the elderly group should keep themselves occupied in some constructive work so as to maintain their dignity, self esteem and self respect

Can any one suggest any way out of this conflict ?

Can something be done to maintain the love, affection and caring between the parents and children/

Is there a way by which dignity, respect, independence of both the parties is maintained?

Thursday, December 23, 2010

AN EXCLUSIVE GOD NEEDED FOR WOMEN

The idea for this came from DG’s post.

We all know that we have different Gods for different needs/occasions

We have Goddess Laxmi for wealth

We have Goddess Saraswati for education

We have Lord Shiva for marriage of girls

We have Ganpati as Vighanharta

We have Indra for rains

So on and so forth

Then we have some exclusive Gods and temples for Men – only men can worship them, or go to their temple or touch them like Shani dev, Hanumanji, or Sabrimala in South.

But to my knowledge we don’t have a God exclusively for women – a God to whom a woman in distress can turn to. A God ,who will cater only to women.

A God in whose temple men will be treated as trespassers and who will be prosecuted if try to enter the temple.

A god who will listen to the problems of women only ,without any prejudice.

A God ,who will come to the rescue of women who are either the victim of exploitation by men or women who are subjected to humiliation and insults by the members of their own sex—the MILS and SILS or the other women.

A God who will not get polluted or whose temple will not become dirty by the entry of women who are in their monthly cycle.

Talking of discrimination

Women are not allowed to touch some of the men Gods like Shanidev or Hanumanji or Manibhadraji or Kshetrapalji but there is no restriction on men to touch the She Gods

Rather all the Pujaris of all the temples be it of a He God or a She God are men.

These men Pujari do the Puja, change the clothes of the She Gods etc.

There is no restriction on them.

I wonder when it comes to matter of God why should there be any discrimination

It is the God who has made woman, it is he who is responsible for the monthly cycles of women ( without these cycles the survival of human race will not be possible) then how come women during this period are considered untouchables?

I think the women during this particular period should be treated with dignity, respect rather than some member of outcaste group. Talking of the monthly cycles in some communities the women during these 4 days are made to sleep on floor, not enter the kitchen, not touch any one.

The height of such humiliation was when the marriage of a girl was postponed just before her PHERAS , The BAARAT had come to her door, all relatives from both the sides were there. Suddenly the girl got her periods. And guess what—it was announced to the whole group present there that due to this reason the marriage will take place after 4 days as she had become impure and could not attend any religious function. So the girl’s side had to take care of the whole baarat for 4 days and the whole world came to know about the whole story. just imagine what humiliation that girl must have felt

Is suppose there was a separate God for Women the girl could have gone to her/his temple and got married there.

Mr GOD are you listening to me?

Please give some time to the mother of the human race and make special provision for her

(I hope all the other Gods who are only for men do not get angry with me . I apologize to all of them . This post is not written to annoy or criticize the ways of GOD but to request him to give some special consideration to women also.)

Monday, December 20, 2010

better to convert to Jainism ? :-) :-)

http://http//anjugandhi.wordpress.com/2010/12/21/better-to-convert-to-jainism/

with the rising prices onion going to Rs 80/- per Kg and garlic selling at Rs 400/- per Kg it is better to convert into Jainism or take a vow not to eat these two priced items .
atleast by taking a vow we are surely to become close to God ( some people believe so) and ofcourse we are going to save and add to our monthly budget
The day is not very far when people who will be fortunate enough to afford these two items will surely flaunt them with pride in see through bags and the less privilaged lot will oogle at these elite group with envy.