“Friends are like Crayons, I may not be your favourite colour, but hope that you will need me somewhere to complete your picture” or “Friends are of two types. One says, “If you need anything, I will be there and other says,” You will never need anything, as long as I am here.”
Hundreds of such messages are doing their rounds all over. And my cellphone is already full with similar forwards.
Not only that, all the gifts shops, road side stalls are decorated with friendship bands, caps, teddy bears, rings, neck pieces all shouting with the same slogan “WE ARE FRIENDS”
Since morning I have been seeing school and college students proudly flaunting their arms adorned with multicolored bands, their shirts, t-shirts, their faces with friendship messages.
All over it is a festive occasion. Yes it is FRIENDSHIP DAY tomorrow. But celebrations have already started and it will go on till Monday, the big day being a holiday.
Seeing all this I went into flashback .During my days ( how I hate using this word my days or my times, this makes me sound old, belonging to old generation ,being the culprit of causing generation gap rifts with my children ). But can’t help it, if I want to refer to my college days, it surely seems centuries away to present day youth.
Any ways I am drifting away from my basic thoughts. So in my college days we never had such days---- rose day, sari day, mix and match day, funky days, Chocolate days, friendship days etc etc. Does it mean I didn’t enjoy my college days or I didn’t have friends? Or my friends were not sure of my friendship or my feeling towards them?
I don’t think so. We had our own way of showing our feelings,. Taking care of the other person, sharing secrets, keeping their feelings and experiences with opposite sex to ourselves, being a part of their infatuations, their flings, their adventures and also hiding all of this from their other friends or family members and also being the best critic of the friend, all came as a package with being close a particular friend.
We never tied bands or had such celebrations but we did have lots of friends at that time and I am still in touch with some of them even after so many years.
For me a friend is not the one who meets you daily, talks to you for hours together but the one who even if not present physically with you still gives you the confidence that you can turn to him whenever the need arises. moreoever it is not necessary that you share same likes and dislikes , have same set of friends But what is important is that you have the assurance that you can pour your heart out to him without his passing any value judgement of your thoughts or acts and who can help you see the right path by guiding you on it.
I also think that age or sex is not a bar in considering someone as one's friend. For me platonic relations do exist between opposite sex. rather friendhip between opposite sex devoid of any sexual feelings is most honest relation( The so called society may look down upon such friendship)
I have heard many people say my sibling is my best friend or my spouse is my best friend. I wonder does a wife tie a band on her husband’s wrist or vice versa( as many say that they want their spouse to be their best friend, although I have my own reservations and views on this topic)?
But seeing the excitement around I also wish that I also had similar trend during my college days. I just love the way the students are enjoying, endorsing their feelings of friendship with hugs, bands, gifts, tattoos, necklaces, rings, shirts, bags. The list is unending.
I may also go out and buy some bands and tie them on my whole lot of friends. but this is sure I am going to send tons of sms to all my friends ( not the forwarded ones but I will write something of my own) reminding them that I AM YOUR FRIEND. YOU CAN TURN TO ME WHEN EVER YOU WANT.
I so much want to tie this band on someone’s wrist who has always considered me to be her friend (and I also reciprocate the same feeling). If by tying this band I am able to convince her that I am still the same with the same feelings, emotions, and am very honoured that she also considers me to be her best friend and Because I consider myself to be her friend,I take the liberty to her be her critic as I want only the best for her.
But as I will not be able to have the formal tying ceremony so through this post I want to remind her that I am always there for you in your good times or bad times, I am a part of you in your happier moods or phases of depression and I don’t mind your fits of anger because I take it with a positive attitude that because you feel close to me that is why you let go yourself in front of me
All my blogging pals I do share a special bond of friendship with you all and I miss all those blogging friends and their reflections who by some or the other reason fail to comment on my posts
Hey friends just remember that your visit on my blog and leaving your footprints enriches my life
HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY TO MY SPECIAL FRIEND AND TO ALL MY BLOGGER BUDDIES