Sunday, May 3, 2009

ऐसा क्यूँ होता है?


ऐसा क्यूँ होता है कि जिन बच्चो को हम हाथ पकड़ कर चलना सिखाते है वो जब चलना सीख जाते है और हमारा हाथ छोड़ कर अकेले भागना चाहते है तो हमें दुःख होता है। उनको ऊँचे आसमान में उड़ने कि प्रेरणा हम देते है , उनके पंखो में जान डालते है और जब वो उड़ना सीख जाते है और गगन के दुसरे छोर को छुना चाहते है तो हमे जहाँ एक तरफ़ खुशी मिलती है वहीं दूसरी ओर अकेलेपन का एहसास क्यूँ मार डालता है। यह तो जिंदगी कि सचाई है कि पर मिलने के बाद पंछी भी माँ का घोसला छोड़ कर दूसरा आशियाँ बनाने को निकल जाते है। आखिकार हम येही तो चाहते है कि हमारे बच्चे नाम कमाए, जिंदगी में कुछ बन जाए, स्वालंबी बन जाए। अपनी जगह ख़ुद बनाये फिर क्यूँ माँ बाप दुखी हो जाते है जब बच्चे अपनी जिंदगी ख़ुद अपनी मर्जी से जीना चाहते है।
बचपन में हर बच्चे को माँ बाप कि जरुरत होती है.पर समय के साथ साथ यह जररु़त जगह बदल लेती है। बाद में ऐसी सिथ्ती आ जाती है जब बच्चो को नही बल्कि माँ बाप को बच्चो कि जरुँरत होने लगती है।
में कई बार यह सोच में पड़ जाती हु कि बच्चो से कुछ उम्मीद करना ग़लत है कि सही है। हमने बच्चो कि इस उम्मीद से तो पैदा नही कीया था कि वो बड़े होकर हमारा सहारा बनेंगे?
I salute those parents who are living and enjoying their life with each other and have let their children live their own life .
मेरे ख्याल से यह उनकी जिंदगी के वो सुनहरे पल है जो उनको एक दुसरे के साथ जीने चाहिए क्यूंकि शायद अभी उनको मौका मिला है एक दुसरे को समझाने का , एक दुसरे को जानने का । नही तो काफ़ी जिंदगी तो उन्होंने ने अपने बच्चो के पीछे ही निकाल दी ।( this is my way of positive thinking -----The only silver lining in this period of their old age which they should be enjoying with their children and grand children and now they are forced to live a lonely life is to think that they have got a chance to know each other and give quality time to each other and rejuvenate their relation with each other.)
so parents whose children are away from them enjoy each and every moment of this period. give your full attention to your partner. take care of all the needs of your other half BUT be there for your children whenever they need you.
After all the children are there because of us. We are responsbile for what they have become in life.
and I hope the children also appreciate this reality that their being is because of their parents.

4 comments:

aruna khasgiwala said...

Yes you are right.this is the fact of life.Every parent undergo these moments and experiences.transition of any kind is painful, how you make it joyous is your creativity. Those who can not , blame their own children that they have changed. KYA isi din ki liye janam diya tha? this is like weaning period.for a baby it is so difficult to get weaned from the mother's milk and gradually the baby accepts the new way of getting satisfied and drinking milk, once he learns it he is adapted to get used to.
therfore your positive way of looking at this period of transition and channelising it properly is the answer

Ms. Neha Gandhi said...

whoaaa...hindi mei post... aagey nikal gaye mummy aap to :D:D:D yayyyy

AnjuGandhi said...

i dont know about aagey nikalna. some people may think it as regression or being backward. english nahi aati isiliye hindi mein likha kuch log aisa bhi soch sakte hai ;-).but it is tough writing in Hindi. as word formation is slightly difficult

Milan said...

its 100% true what you have written.I wonder a lot of times what is right or wrong? I get torn between the truth, reality, destiny and what is morally correct. There are things which are in ones control and then there are things which are not. Sometimes you just want to go with the flow and see where life takes you. Maa has written well here as well and i agree with her comments

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